Do women enjoy giving blow jobs (performing fellatio)?

That would be blow from the Victorian euphemism for ejaculate and the Victorian slang blowsy for a prostitute. There are really two questions here–a woman's willingness to put a penis in her mouth at all (some find that quite distasteful) and her willingness to take the act to completion (even more find that not to their liking). I've even had women stop me from giving oral gratification to them because they felt they would become obligated to return the favor.
 
I've heard a lot of reasons why, but once the makeweight arguments are swept aside it usually boils down to the performance issue. "I don't want to be judged against all the other girls who've ever gone down on him. I don't really know any technique."
 
Me: What!? When a penis is offered to you to suck, it's not about wanting to see how good you are. It's about letting you get turned on.
 
Her: Then he should be kissing my neck and breasts. Why would I get turned on turning him on?
 
Me: Guess you don't know the vagus nerve runs from the brain to the arch at the back of your throat, down to the heart and stomach and then to the vagina and rectum.
 
Her: So?
 
Me: The vagus nerve is the orgasm nerve. A lot of women can come from sucking a dick, especially if they get it back into their throat.
 
Her: No!… Really?

Me: Well, maybe not "a lot," but some. But that's not the main issue. I've noticed you don't lubricate a lot. Nothing causes a woman to lubricate like sucking on a dick, especially if you get it deep.

Her: Now you're just lying to me. There's no such thing. You're just trying to trick me.

Me: Fine with me, but why would you stop your own pleasure for fear of being judged?

Her: Okay. I've tried it a few times, and the guy is always blah like I didn't do a good job.

Me: Of course he was.

Her: [daggers]
 
Me: Look, there's nothing worse than a technique-filled blowjob. I've had lollypop strokes, champagne-cork pops, swirly-swirls… you name it. It doesn't impress. All a guy is looking for is "do you like his cock?" If you give that impression, you're golden. If you come across as "this is a chore," he's going to come back with "blah."
 
Her: That's bullshit.
 
Me: Here's the deal. When you have a cock to suck, do it entirely for your pleasure. Don't even think about him. Just turn your mouth on. If you do that, there is simply no bigger thrill for a guy.
 
Her: R e a l l y ? Okay, let me try. Mmm… mmm… mmph.
 
Me (after a few minutes): Okay, now feel yourself down there.
 
Her: Oh, my god! I've never lubed like this before! I'm really wet!
 
Me: See. Okay, now finish me off.
 
Her [swatting me]: You rat! I knew you were tricking me.
 
Me: Tricking you? You're obviously getting turned on. Why wouldn't you want to keep going?
 
Her: It's… I… Uh… Okay, look. I don't like the taste. I don't like the texture. I don't like the idea of you shooting off in my mouth.
 
Me: [pause] Guess you're not aware that cum is the best hair conditioner there is.
 
Her: What!?
 
Me: Think about it. What is semen made of?… zinc, silicon, calcium, hormones, sugars… It's the ultimate hair-health cocktail… nails and skin too.
 
Her: You're so full of shit.
 
Me: We had a girl at school, biochemistry major, who knew this. She sucked off a different guy every day. She haunted the stacks in the graduate library every afternoon. She'd tap guys on the shoulder and ask if she could suck them off… take them into a secluded corner, and BAM! Her hair was extremely lustrous and full-bodied.
 
Her: Oh. Bull. Shit. You expect me to believe that!? It's not really true… is it?
 
Another convert.

19 Replies to “Do women enjoy giving blow jobs (performing fellatio)?”

  1. Yes and no. Lol

    There IS a level of eroticism in it, but to be honest, for us ladies it's the same as sucking on your finger, but bigger. It's a hard cylinder of flesh. No real taste and if any, it's usually salty. Quite often, especially if in a long term and well trusted relationship, the man has his hands on your ears or back of head, and SOMETIMES it's hard to breathe. Obviously not terribly so, or that calls for a major talking to. Lol

    Let's not forget the aching jaw and tongue cramps! Oh, and that stiff neck. Lol

    And to give a proper blowjob that will truly please your man, you mustn't forget those two egg shaped buddies he's got. Be sure to pay them some mind. Give them a cradle, a soft squeeze, and if you're a bit of a “professional”, you can suck them gently into your mouth, just be sure your lips are very slick before hand. They're very sensitive ladies, so be gentle with them!

    All complaints aside, it really is nice. Think about it: we enjoy having our partners go “down there”, so why SHOULDN'T we return the favor? I can say from experience that giving oral sex to a woman has it's challenges and downsides also, but like I said, it's still erotic. You need to give to receive. As I call it, it's a very necessary sacrifice in a relationship.

    All negatives aside, it pleases your partner. Your man works all day, brings home $ for bills and groceries, new shoes and lingerie, so the least us ladies can do is give our hardworking men a hot dinner and good blowjob. True love and well maintained relationships have to have a certain amount of sacrifice.

    When I was around 18–20 years old, I HATED it. Refused it. Then I “grew up”, and realized that if I expect any “ special treatment “ of my own, I needed to suck it up(no pun intended. Lol).

    Long story short, it's not so much the act that excites us, is how you watch us when we're doing it. How you moan, how you show us how much you're enjoying it. We derive pleasure from giving you pleasure. We're happy when we make you happy.

    “When a wife knows her family is fed, warm, and her husbands needs are taken care of BY HER, she feels a sense of pride and accomplishment from the happiness her duties bring”. ❤

  2. Yes. There are many, many women who enjoy giving blowjobs–it's a common taste, if you'll pardon the expression.

  3. Depends on the guys she's blowing right? If you love someone you will do anything for them. It is important that the guy has good hygiene, well groomed, and act the same way you want your girls to give herself to you. Sex is a physical way of expressing ones emotions so is nice to always be as giving as possible. The girls I date all are very open and say they enjoy it. Some have jaw issues. So sometimes it is physical discomfort too where they have a hard time (pun not intended) due to physical limitations not just liking or disliking too.
      One really sweet Girlfriend complained I was breaking her $2,000 dental work.
      So if you love someone you go a little further.
      It's always a good rule to keep up your end in the relationship too (pun intended)

  4. Yes.

    Women love to receive a blow job with their non-existent penis.

    If you are asking if women like giving blow jobs, that's like asking if every person in the world likes Donald Trump (since he is a massive penis).

    Some do, some don't

  5. As girls are growing up they heard from other girls and women had they pleasure a boy, teen boy or man by sucking on his penis. Girls see boys rubbing their self and see the pleasure he get. Some girls and women have seen other girls and women suck on a boy or man penis and notice the pleasure they get from it. Some girls, teens girls, and women have seen porn and see what the female does to the male.

    Us female are shy about this. Many female are curious with the erection, masturbation, ejackuation, and sperm. They know by doing oral that it allow them to see how a boy, teen boy, or man sperm come out.

    The rule of thumb is this. Be sure the male you are doing like you and is willing to let you do it. Be sure he clean and has not health issues. Be sure you do not have any sores in the mouth. Be sure you know the correct way of sucking him correctly. Do not act stupid with your teeth.

  6. Like all other sexual acts, it’s a matter of preference. One simply cannot generalise. Not all women are even attracted to penises!

    Every person is different, hence every woman is different. If you want a woman to give you a blowjob, try asking her if she wants to. If she does, figure out the ways in which you two can pleasure each other via and during a blowjob. If you are inexperienced, take it slow and do not end up injuring each other.

    If you are a woman contemplating if you ‘should’ enjoy giving blowjobs, know that there is no such thing as ‘should’ or ‘have to’. Blowjobs can occur in varied ways, and you can like some kinds and dislike others, but any preference you (and your partner) have is okay to have. Consent, of course, is important in either direction. Being neutral to it and making an informed decision to do it for the sake of your partner is okay.

    There are physiological and psychological reasons for blowjobs being both desirable and undesirable for the giver, but not all these reasons apply to everyone to the same degree, because people are different. How it feels can also differ by posture, technique, relationship dynamic, whether ejaculation occurs inside the mouth or not, and so on.

    A qualified sexologist would be better at imparting the details, but here is what I know:

    • The taste and smell of a partner’s genitalia can be arousing. However, hygiene is important, and so are condoms if you are unsure about your partner’s sexual health.
    • Many blowjob givers are able to stimulate certain nerve endings in their mouths and throats, making it enjoyable for themselves.
    • Kinks : Some people feel dominant giving a blowjob (eg. ‘I could bite it off if I wanted to’), some people feel submissive giving one (eg. due to the cultural association of the head with respect), while some feel neither. Contrary to social messaging, blowjobs are not inherently degrading to the giver. However, any coercive acts like pushing the giver’s head down are not ‘standard’, and qualify as assault unless agreed upon beforehand. Generally, a blowjob is just a sexual act which can be pleasurable when performed hygienically between consenting adults. The psychological associations you have can be used to heighten pleasure, if you and your partner so wish.
    • Length, depth, and gag reflexes : People differ in dimensions. People differ in how much they gag — some people almost puke even while brushing teeth, others can deep-throat a ten-incher without much issue. Not everyone can physically perform every kind of blowjob. Not everyone can physically perform a blowjob at all. The same goes for girth and jaw strain, cum in or out (many who like giving blowjobs also hate the texture of semen), posture (find the optimal alignment for maximum comfort and pleasure?), thrusting intensity, lubrication … the list of nuances that differ person to person is long, and must be figured out privately. Some ‘inconveniences’ can be turn-ons for some people in a kinky manner, so that’s a possibility worth discussing with your partner at some point.

    Like any other sexual act, blowjobs do get better with practice for both parties, in general and also with a specific partner to attune yourselves to each other’s preferences. However, pressurising someone to ‘practice’ something they hate ‘until they like it’ is abuse, so please don’t do that.

    Tl;dr — it depends, and assuming that all women have a common opinion on something by virtue of their gender alone is borderline sexist. Good luck!

  7. I am an Indian married straight guy, before marriage I had a girlfriend as well. My GF gave me blowjob's and Wife has also started giving it. Both of them were hesitantly accepted it initially but became comfortable after few sessions. With my gf I didn't got much time to spent alone at a private place so we used to finish the act as soon as possible. So I didn't got much time to read whether she is liking it or not, however, she never hated it and used to give whenever she got chance to do it.

    With wife the story is different I gets plenty of time of togetherness, we stay alone in Bangalore, much away from our parents and relative's thats why we can get physical as long as either one of us wants it to be. Initially she was also hesitant but when I started cunnilingus she was in heavenly world and realised the true potential of oral sex. Now on we are very frequently having oral sex sessions and my wife enjoys sucking my penis. There have been many instances that she gave me just blowjob and we ended it up, in those sessions whenever I touched her pussy, ans I found that to be completely wet. I have asked her whether she liked to give blowjob and her answer is, she loves to give blowjob much more than kissing or me sucking her boobs. She accepted that her pussy gets wet by giving blowjob.

    Her preference in terms of excitement and enjoyment are cunnilingus> 69 position> Fucking (in doggy style) > Blowjob>Boobs sucking > lip kiss > other kisses.

    And trust me sometimes she just asks for blowjob or cunnilingus. Even though she knows that I can fuck the shit out of her for as long as long she wish to.

  8. I suck my husband’s penis to make it harder and bigger. First both of you should be ready for a hard fuck. Blow job is for making the penis bigger, harder and erect. It helps to reach in depth of your vagina. This way your bf can fuck you hard.

    Its better if penis is clean. This is why I mostly do blow-job work while doing sex under shower. Let your bf control you for blow job. Because blow job is to energize him, it should be enjoyable specially to him. I can tell from my experience with my husband.

    tell ur bf to stand straight. You sit on ur knees on floor with your mouth facing his penis. Pull the gentle skin of penis backward and hold the penis with light grip. Slowly take inside your mouth and move your head such way that penis moves forward backward in mouth. Start slowly to avoid your tooth rubbing his penis. Then raise the speed.

    Your bf should hold your head by hand to push towards penis. Otherwise he can rotate hands on your breast to excite you.

    I have this experience. If you find better idea after sometime, continue with that

  9. I have always enjoyed giving a guy a BJ and have done it 100s of times since I was a teenager.  I watched a couple doing it when I was young and desperately wanted to try it which I eventually did.  It is a fantastic feeling to look up at a guy as he ejaculates and pulls such a funny face followed by a period of being exhausted.
    I was nearly always sort of forced to get sperm in my mouth so I quickly got used to the taste (which isn't great) but now when I taste it and swallow it I associate the taste with sex and it seems to make me feel even more horny.  It contains a lot of testosterone which makes women feel very horny.

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  11. Yes, one needs to realize that if not with the right man no sexual experience is pleasurable. But with the right man all of them are. I used to hate it, but it was only because I wasn’t good at it. Luckily my bf was experienced and he helped me through the ropes. Pleasure wise it doesn’t do anything for me, but it pleases my man, and hence pleases me.

    But it is not easy at all, there are jaw cramps, aching necks. And if your man is well endowed, it can cause trouble breathing and even make you gag! And special care needs to be taken of the nuts. Because without that a big thing goes amiss. I kind of feel happy because I feel that its my duty to take care of his needs like he takes care of mine. I love it when he grabs my hair and keep my mouth in place. I love it when he plays with my hair as I am doing it. The way he looks at me, sometimes he’d take sometime to grab my hair and dictate the pace.

    My man likes 2 kind of bjs

    1. Slow and sensuous
    2. Fast and furious

    The fast and furious ones are only for his quick pleasure. He’ll blow his wad in my mouth and go on about his business. The slow ones are the ones you gotta work for. Keeping his cock in your mouth, slowly playing with it with your tongue, looking at him like his sex kitten. Edging him and then stopping and slowly building it back again. Such sessions can last an hour! And all the time, you cant speak, you communicate with your movements, and eye contact.

    I also love his cum, and am a regular sallower. We have a routine where each time I swallow, I open my mouth to show him the contents before doing it. With us, its a daily routine almost. I know that after dinner when he sits on the couch and i go to cuddle with him, there is a 50:50 chance he’d slowly push my head on his cock. That keeps me quite excited.

  12. “Do women enjoy giving blow jobs (performing fellatio)?”

    If they do, they often do.

    While some women might allow a man to guilt-trip them into sucking cock, most women who do give blowjobs often enjoy giving fellatio. Not just because they enjoy sucking cock, but also because they have power over the man whose cock they’re sucking.

    As to the women who don’t enjoy sucking cock, their main reasons seem to be:

    1. lack of cleanliness: many men don’t wash their cocks often enough, so their penis tastes like old sweat, urine, and smegma.
    2. gagging: men have a tendency to buck or shove their cocks too deep in a woman’s mouth, which can trigger the gagging reflex. Lots of women don’t enjoy that, and they’re put off by their inconsiderate lovers.
    3. quid pro quo: women don’t feel like going down on someone who doesn’t go down on them.
    4. improper: some women are raised with the prudish notion that oral sex is sinful and unladylike, and they feel debased when they perform oral sex.
    5. physical discomfort: some women expressed physical discomfort like pain in their jaws from giving head.
  13. I have asked this question to all the women who have / have not given me a blowjob and to a few very close friends. I will divide the answer in two sections. First – what and why they like, this is a compilation of answers from women who liked. Second – what and why they did not like. I’m answering them in first person with their exact words.

    First – the women who liked giving a blowjob:

    1. “I like it when you moan while I’m giving a blowjob and it feels like I’m in control.”

    2. “I receive a sense of achievement when you are a satisfied”

    3. “I was in my period and I feel it’s my responsibility to make him satisfied during these days”

    4. “Sometimes I like giving and sometimes I don’t” (Relax! I was confused too)

    5. “it’s fun to deepthroat because it’s big and it’s what I enjoy the most (from the sample size, only 1 gave this answer)

    To conclude, reason 1 and reason 2 were common throughout the sample size. So effectively, this can be your takeaway.

    Second – the women who didn’t like giving a blowjob

    1. “I just don’t like it. I find it all yucky.”

    2. “Gag reflex. Anything more than one inch and I feel puking.” (some women have a shorter gag reflex and inhaling a penis gets difficult. Many may debate that the gag reflex gets activated at the epiglottis area (the area which moves when you gulp), but there are exceptions due to early muscle activation.

    3. “I would have given it had we been in a committed relationship” (back in day, I found it hypocritical since I always went down on her, but I guess everyone has their reasons)

    I hope you and your partner have a great sex life ahead. For all the guys reading the answer, never force or insist a woman to perform fellatio. Let it be a natural process and it’s best when it’s an aspiration.

  14. Yes, just like there are men who enjoy giving oral sex, there are also women who enjoy giving oral sex. Freshly washed aroused genitals with a dash of natural lubricant is one of the best flavours in the world, and not just in my humble opinion. In kinky circles, many people love "cock worship" and most of them are women.

  15. Fellatio. A woman enjoys it as much as her counterpart does.

    A few important points for guys:

    1. Please clean it thoroughly. If you are uncircumcised make sure u pull down the foreskin and clean the base of the head. As much as we love to give a blowjob we hate the smell of a dirty penis equally.
    2. Please don’t ejaculate without warning. At times we too have certain fantasies to have the sperm on our face, on our body or in our mouth. Do not deny us of that.
    3. Please last longer. I know it can be tough at times considering the amount of pleasure you derive from your tool getting the tongue massage. As much as you love to receive the blowjob we too love to give it and it makes us cum as well. So please last longer.

    Yes women do like to give blow jobs but make sure you return the favor.

  16. They do enjoy pleasuring their man. Coz she likes to see her man ecstatic. But, her mind dsnt normally work on straight lines. She wants him to be a man in the real sense. She likes to surrender n pursue passion if she senses likeness of the things I mentioned above.
    Also, the man has to be clean to be pleasured. U cannot expect her to clean u up with her mouth.

  17. Like so many things it depends on the individual. Some women enjoy it greatly and others do it because their partners enjoy and some don't like it all. There is no right or wrong, it is purely a personal thing.

    Mollyxxx

  18. It appears so… Some women like to give blowjobs.
    Do 'women' like to…. no, not 'all women'. Women vary widely. Some are not heterosexual so it is less likely they like to suck cock. Some might view sucking cock as subservient or degrading.
    Some like to suck cock but not eat cum.

    But many many women like to give blow jobs.

    I would post pictures of happy faced women sucking my dick, but that might not be considered appropriate by some people here on Quora. Some of them have told me how much they like to give blowjobs, and I have known them long enough to judge their sincerity.

    Why might women like giving blowjobs?

    I think some women like the control the have when they have a cock in their mouth and balls in hand. With her mouth at my cock, she has my attention, and most all people like attention. Perhaps the action and feeling of giving a blowjob is not all pleasurable, and the mouth gets tired after a while, but it is enjoyable for many people to give pleasure to others.  And while receiving a blojob, I feel more relaxed and accepted. Giving me a blowjob is a good way to connect with me.
    Perhaps if more men got blowjobs the world would be a more peaceful place.

    Short answer:  No, not all women like to give blowjobs. Yes, some women like to give blowjobs.

  19. Depends on person to person. Some people may consider Oral sex as bad and dirty while some may consider it as an integral part of sexual satisfaction. Some on the other hand may prefer doing oral sex more than penetrative sex, because its the safest way of mutual satisfaction. The woman may like doing blowjob if she likes to see her man enjoying and reaching satisfaction.

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