“I kept thinking about you last night, and the other day I almost called my boyfriend by your name. I don’t know, it’s just, when he cheated on me, you were there for me. Since then, I can’t stop thinking about you. Maybe we shouldn’t be friends because I don’t want anything to accidentally happen between us.”
A lady friend of mine from college gave me that little speech about a year into our friendship.
Honestly, she kind of pissed me off by assuming that because she had developed feelings for me, that I had developed feelings for her also.
I had just tried to be a good friend when she called me in tears because her boyfriend had sex with some girl that was homeless. Yes, homeless.
This has happened to me repeatedly. I become friends with a girl and eventually, one of a few things happen.
#1 One of us develop feelings.
Either I or the young lady begin to like the other romantically.
#2: One of us starts dating someone new.
Either I or my friend develop a new romantic relationship. The new significant other has a problem with the friendship, and the friendship is swiftly destroyed.
Or, my friend feels as though they can’t maintain our friendship and be in a relationship at the same time, and they choose to end the friendship.
Some version of those two things has happened to me EVERY TIME I’ve had a friend that was a woman.
So I gave up on having women friends. To hell with it. They never want to watch wrestling with me anyway.
However, I’m sure somewhere out there is a guy and girl who are in a perfectly happy and healthy platonic relationship.
But like many other answerers have said, men and women being friends is hard as hell.