What are your 3 top lessons on building startup company?

It's hard to narrow down to three, but here are the ones that first came to mind:

  • Think big with everything you do – big goals, big milestones, big rewards!
  • Unless you are very lucky, you won't get it right on the first or second or maybe the third try – keep trying and you'll eventually get there
  • Surround yourself with passionate, hard-working people whose skills complement each other and will work with you – get rid of anyone who is considered a negative force quickly and decisively

Fellatio: How do I give a good blowjob?

Alright, alright.

Here's some background on why I'm even answering this question: Jessica says she doesn't give blow jobs here: Jessica Su's answer to What is your biggest strength and weakness regarding relationships? We had a short conversation there regarding blowjobs and she asked me to answer the question more thoroughly here. 

I used to not give blow jobs. Adamantly. Even when I was married. I think I understand the reasons behind some of the hesitation and I am writing this in the hopes that somebody somewhere has a more fulfilling sex life rife with dopamine and lots of mutual understanding because of it.

Giving blowjobs is intimidating for lots of women.  We've been brought up to believe it's yucky down there and good girls don't do that.  Even those of us who are sexually active, sometimes with multiple partners, still don't want to or don't know how to give blowjobs. I was sexually active for 10 years before I gave my first and it was another year before I was interested enough to try it again (different partner).

My answer isn't going to focus on the details of any man's specific preferences – that totally varies other than a couple consistent techniques, but rather a way to become accustomed to and to enjoy the experience as a woman. 

First and foremost I have to recommend that you find a partner whose pheromones turn you on. This is totally underestimated by a lot of people. I think it's because they haven't experienced it before.


If you've experienced this, you know what I mean. If not, the best way I can explain it to you is that when your mate is freshly showered, their genitals smell comforting, stimulating, and mouth watering. You want to inhale deeply.

I think it's always good to start out slowly and explore, especially if you're totally uncomfortable with it like I was. You don't have to start out deepthroating like a pornstar (though this doesn't hurt later on).

Flavored condoms can work for the first couple of times if you are really uncomfortable – I did it, but I didn't like it. You could keep your mouth closed and just smell, feel skin on skin, kiss, nuzzle, etc.  Get used to how it smells and how it looks.  Hopefully at this point you've discovered that you like how it looks, smells, and feels.

You can continue to move up from there – lose the condom, begin to use your hands, mouth, and tongue in different ways. This doesn't mean it even has to be in your mouth yet. You can just slowly explore.  If there's hair, you can touch, feel, and taste that.  Same with the upper thighs, lower abdomen, hips, buttocks, scrotum, balls, and taint (or even anus once/if that time comes). If you haven't explored the nipples yet, this could be a good time for that too. If you have a patient and loving partner I see no reason why they would object and would probably enjoy teaching and guiding someone to do things the way they like – maybe they're learning too. Ask for feedback. Try specific things and get feedback. It may seem unromantic or embarassing, but the next time you put your new found knowledge to good use it will all be worth it.

Once you get to the enveloping stage, there's a couple more things to remember.  First, use (and alternate) your hands and LOTS of spit.  I find drinking water beforehand and keeping a cup nearby for extended sessions helps a lot. Then you've got to figure out what to do about your teeth.  I was really worried about scraping, but for the most part lightly covering the edges of your teeth with your lips seems to work alright.  Different anatomies might be different.  You should also have a suction effect as the penis leaves your mouth. 

Deepthroat.  Honestly, if you would have told me five years ago that I would do something like that I would have just laughed at you.  But I hacked it.  Yeah, I still have a gag reflex but it can be mitigated.  Some people recommend desentization with bananas or cucumbers but I've found something else that works.

I've been practicing yoga for about 10 years so I have pretty good control of muscles in my body that most other people don't simply because they don't practice.  The throat houses some of those muscles.  The specific breath I used is ujjayi.  If you're interested, here's a brief pranayama instruction (you might learn better from YouTube videos, so you can try those too).  You just can't see the neck muscles move so I think it's better to have a written description:

The Victorious Breath
Once you can practice samavrtti with ease for 10 to 15 minutes, you can move on to the practice of Ujjayi Pranayama (Victorious Breath). Ujjayi is simply doing samavrtti with the addition of a slight closure at the root of your throat. Narrowing the throat by half-closing the epiglottis (the piece of cartilage at the top of your voice box) gives your breath a voice. Let that voice become your teacher. Listen to the tone of that voice as you inhale and exhale, and make that tone as even and smooth as you can, without any catches or wavering and without any change in pitch. Listening to the voice of ujjayi pranayama will give you greater sensitivity and control over the nuances of your breath.
At first, you may wonder exactly how to manipulate this epiglottal valve at the root of your throat. Here are two methods which can help you learn this action. First, just sigh, and notice the slight constriction in your throat that occurs. That's the area you need to control when you're practicing ujjayi. A second way is to open your mouth and inhale softly, noticing where the breath touches your throat. For most people, that will be deep down at the base and back of the throat. Again, that's the spot you need to constrict slightly to practice ujjayi. After you've zeroed in on this area, close your mouth and inhale, letting the breath touch your throat there. Once you can inhale in this way, practice exhaling with the same constriction of the epiglottis.

Once you've mastered that constriction, you basically use those same muscles to open up and relax your throat.  If you have any other personal relaxation techniques you can use, you may want to try those out too.  I basically use deep breathing through my nose while manually expanding my throat muscles any time I choose to deep throat.  It takes a lot of concentration and effort, but this is one of the "techniques" that reaps the greatest rewards.  I'm not sure why because I can't feel it but I definitely know there's a different physical and audible response in my partner.  You can even just try slowly working your way down over time until you find something that works for you and your partner, again – communication, communication, communication.

But what about when he cums? Swallow or spit? What's it like? Does it happen everytime? Personally, I knew if I was in, I was all in. Taste isn't bad. Smell is disgusting. Sorry guys, but salty bleach smell stuck in the back of my throat and wafting through my nose is not my favorite! I don't think spitting at this point makes a difference – I never have so I don't know the proper disposal techniques for that. Perhaps someone else can chime in. 

I generally don't breathe in my nose until I swallow and drink a lot of water. A couple seconds of minor unpleasantness is worth it for me. Pineapples (I've heard strawberries recently, too) help to make the taste and smell more neutral. Plus I know when the tables are turned, it's not ALL roses and I'd like someone to stick around until I'm finished too. It also has a numbing effect (similar to Novocain) on anything it touches in the mouth or throat. This was surprising but it passes in just a few minutes.

You don't have to though. While women can have both oral sex and intercourse in the same session, it's much harder for men.  I would say a majority of the time, you won't have to worry about cum in your mouth – never if you're really opposed.

69s can be fun too, but in a different way.  There's not as much focus on one person's anatomy and preferences, but you can develop a certain level of non verbal communication and synergy that is pretty amazing. Takes time and practice but so, so, SO worth it.

I want women to feel empowered, confident, and to explore their own sexuality. It's fluid and as you learn more about what you are doing, things that seemed gross, scary, uncomfortable, or weird become some of the most powerful tools in your belt.

Saying I don't give blowjobs is like saying I don't do math. It's more a matter of being uncomfortable with the material because you don't know how to manipulate the variables than it is true unwillingness.

Knowledge is power, even (especially) in the bedroom. 


Just to clarify once more since I have the feeling this may be a very interesting answer for some folks – I don't care how you like it or want it or if you don't like how I do it. Don't comment with any of that nonsense. Seriously. Go write your own answer! However, if you have further questions, need clarification, or want to piggyback on a part of my answer, comment on!

Do you agree that the Philippines is not yet an industrialized country?

is it possible that 'industrialised country' does not mean the same thing as it used to be 20 years ago. Though wikipedia counts Philippines as NIC or newly industrialised country, meaning still behind 'Developed countries' but ahead of other 'developing counties'. Newly industrialized country

I think the game has changed substantially in todays global scene. There is no questioning the fact that things like rule of law, protection of individuals rights, control on corruption, clean drinking water, electricity and access to health care, etc will always remain basic building blocks that a stable country has to provide. With globalisation and rise of knowledge economy there are several new dynamics into play. Even though there are several challenges still to overcome, Philippines has made great strides in the recent years on the basic building blocks. The proof is in the increasing number of residents of developed countries choosing to relocate or retire in Philippines. Challenge is to make it all available to the weakest or the weak at the farthest and most remote corner of the country.

Philippines has a large pool of very young population, they are educated and ready to participate in the knowledge economy in a meaningful way. The costs are still very reasonable and thus making output from the country very competitive globally. Culturally philippines is very much in sync to the global scene, there is very little cultural or language barrier to talk about. Accepting foreigners with open arms helps in bringing the catalyst for innovation, risk taking and startups, those are the things that made countries like USA and Singapore successful. All of this in addition to the beautiful country side and wonderful smiling people puts Philippines on the top of the competitiveness charts.

Product Development: When analyzing usage data on an MVP, what level of usage qualifies as a signal?

It's hard to answer this question in absolute terms and perhaps a statistician would be better equipped to answer this question than I. However, you don't need to get to a level of certainty necessary to present the analytics of your MVP to an academic review board; you only need to develop enough confidence to continue to invest in the product or develop enough confidence that your product is failing and you need to pivot. Your intuition can go a long way, and qualitative evidence may be more valuable at this stage than quantitative.

To try to create a helpful frame, your MVP should be designed to test both your product's value and growth hypotheses, and there are different considerations in measuring each.

A relatively small number of users is needed to test your product's value hypothesis, especially when using both quantitative and qualitative data. Even with as few as 10 users you can start to see stable patterns in how positively or negatively you're reacting to the product. If 8 out of 10 (not artificially selected) users are engaging with the product as you hoped, you can feel relatively confident that the value is being realized and that you should move on to optimizing the value proposition as opposed to pivoting to a new product concept.

The growth hypothesis likely takes more users to validate since you'll have to lean more heavily on statistics to know if positive experiences are driving users to perform the necessary growth inducing actions. It depends on how you're hoping to achieve growth (social media sharing, SEO?) and how large the growth coefficient needs to be to succeed.

Who are the best Yoga teachers ever in India?


Acharya Vinay was born  into a Brahmin family where yoga was a household virtue and his grandfather passed his legacy to his father in form of traditional values of yoga, astrology and dharma. He started studying the scriptures on Veda, Upanishads and Yoga under his father at the early age of 12. It is still a tradition in India, that such disciplines are passed on from generation to generation. The seeds were sown very early, but as like every seed, it took time to ripe out. It got ripe with the initiation by his Guru Yogi Rudranath of Himalayas and acharya was inclined towards a spiritual outlook of life.
While being a child, he was blessed with the opportunity of being in the satsang of several saints and spiritual teachers from different walks of life. Among those were karma yogis and swamis who provided a healthy fertilizer for the seed which was sown earlier.  He was driven onto this sacred path of acquiring the yogic knowledge under his father whom he considers to be his first guru who gave all the foundational values. And later he was initiated by Guru Rudranath of nath tradition consolidating the resolve and providing him further guidance. Acharya ascribes Jeevmoksha as a vision transferred from Rudranth ji for promoting yoga and allied systems all over.
By family lines acharya is also a disciple of the ancient Sri Vidya tradition of Tantra. It’s the oldest followed sect in India which is established on the principles of Shakti and her attributes. Adi Shakti is the name for goddess and she is considered to be the divine mother from which this whole existence emerges. Shakti is worshipped in her nine forms each being responsible for one aspect of the universe.
Academically:

  1. He completed his teacher’s training at Yoga Vidya Gurkul in Nasik under the guidance of Acharya Vishwas Mandlik.
  2. Completed his academic education at the University of Sanskrit by obtaining a master’s degree in Yogic Sciences while studying in Rishikesh.
  3. He also obtained Masters in Ecology and Environmental sciences and strongly feels the need for awareness in masses about deteriorating balance of environment.

He has worked with various organizations and individuals from all walks of life and attended workshops on developing the yogic traditions with elements from tradition as well and modern learning methodology. Working tirelessly since last 14 years towards teaching and spreading awareness on yoga, Acharya Vinay has been firm on his path and mission.
His teaching pattern is based on mastering the alignment and accuracy in every element of yoga practice. He has a simple and soft way of communication and believes in understanding each and every individual before commencing the training program without which the process of learning cannot be completed.
In 2012 he established Jeevmoksha Yoga Gurukul and Jeevmoksha institute of Yoga Studies in Rishikesh for imparting the yoga education to people from all across the globe in the holy city of Rishikesh which has its own spiritual history. His vision in the next upcoming year is to establish a Yoga Ashram in the surroundings of Rishikesh, which will serve as a learning institution as well as hermitage for seekers of yogic knowledge.
As he says often, “for me teaching yoga in not just holding classes at fixed times, rather it is something which requires a connection to be established between people through which they can communicate easily irrespective of linguistic or psychic barriers.”
Also he says, “It has been a fascinating experience up till now, recognizing my dharma as a human being while connecting with people from so many different areas and fields of life and helping them understand the true meaning of Yoga.
There is so much for all of us to know and derive out of this system called Yog, and its not a journey of one lifetime. These are very positive and sacred impressions that we develop and carry with us to many other lives, which certainly is a true phenomenon, until we are completely free from all impressions and liberated.

Facebook Pages vs. Facebook Groups – Which do you use for your coworking space and why?

At Mindpark http://www.mindpark.se we use an Facebook group for internal communications. Stuff like organizing happenings / events, asking for help between members or just goofing and setting the atmosphere.

We use a Facebook fan page for external communication. Posting info about public events, interesting news from companies at the co working space and other interesting things.

So the answer in my opinion is that you want to use both 🙂

Acting: When taking head shots with a photographer is $735 Canadian over priced for 4 large prints and 100 composite cards along with having a makeup artist?

I have never paid that for headshots, and I've always walked away with a complete disk of ALL shots taken with a a selection of photographer picked proofs.

In the NYC/LA markets, the prices vary wildly, as does the talent and experience of the photographer. Shop around! Ask other actors for their recommendations! Personally, that seems grossly overpriced to me. However, I'm not super familiar with the Canadian market. Where exactly in Canada are you? Toronto or Vancouver?

Personally, I have always had great luck going to the film and art schools. The students are VERY willing to do an afternoon photo shoot for a very small amount of money if not for free. Sometimes, just some beer will get you there! Typically, the trade-off is allowing them to use your image in their portfolio. The shoots are usually a ton of fun and because they are so invested in their art, the pictures generally turn out quite wonderfully! It's a route I highly recommend if your time frame is a bit on the flexible side.

If not, I'd definitely question the value of the headshot package you were quoted. Definitely check with actors, agents, casting directors, and the unions in your area to see if they have any recommendations. They often have a list of available photographers, at the very least, which is a good starting point.