Fellatio: How do I give a good blowjob?

Alright, alright.

Here's some background on why I'm even answering this question: Jessica says she doesn't give blow jobs here: Jessica Su's answer to What is your biggest strength and weakness regarding relationships? We had a short conversation there regarding blowjobs and she asked me to answer the question more thoroughly here. 

I used to not give blow jobs. Adamantly. Even when I was married. I think I understand the reasons behind some of the hesitation and I am writing this in the hopes that somebody somewhere has a more fulfilling sex life rife with dopamine and lots of mutual understanding because of it.

Giving blowjobs is intimidating for lots of women.  We've been brought up to believe it's yucky down there and good girls don't do that.  Even those of us who are sexually active, sometimes with multiple partners, still don't want to or don't know how to give blowjobs. I was sexually active for 10 years before I gave my first and it was another year before I was interested enough to try it again (different partner).

My answer isn't going to focus on the details of any man's specific preferences – that totally varies other than a couple consistent techniques, but rather a way to become accustomed to and to enjoy the experience as a woman. 

First and foremost I have to recommend that you find a partner whose pheromones turn you on. This is totally underestimated by a lot of people. I think it's because they haven't experienced it before.


If you've experienced this, you know what I mean. If not, the best way I can explain it to you is that when your mate is freshly showered, their genitals smell comforting, stimulating, and mouth watering. You want to inhale deeply.

I think it's always good to start out slowly and explore, especially if you're totally uncomfortable with it like I was. You don't have to start out deepthroating like a pornstar (though this doesn't hurt later on).

Flavored condoms can work for the first couple of times if you are really uncomfortable – I did it, but I didn't like it. You could keep your mouth closed and just smell, feel skin on skin, kiss, nuzzle, etc.  Get used to how it smells and how it looks.  Hopefully at this point you've discovered that you like how it looks, smells, and feels.

You can continue to move up from there – lose the condom, begin to use your hands, mouth, and tongue in different ways. This doesn't mean it even has to be in your mouth yet. You can just slowly explore.  If there's hair, you can touch, feel, and taste that.  Same with the upper thighs, lower abdomen, hips, buttocks, scrotum, balls, and taint (or even anus once/if that time comes). If you haven't explored the nipples yet, this could be a good time for that too. If you have a patient and loving partner I see no reason why they would object and would probably enjoy teaching and guiding someone to do things the way they like – maybe they're learning too. Ask for feedback. Try specific things and get feedback. It may seem unromantic or embarassing, but the next time you put your new found knowledge to good use it will all be worth it.

Once you get to the enveloping stage, there's a couple more things to remember.  First, use (and alternate) your hands and LOTS of spit.  I find drinking water beforehand and keeping a cup nearby for extended sessions helps a lot. Then you've got to figure out what to do about your teeth.  I was really worried about scraping, but for the most part lightly covering the edges of your teeth with your lips seems to work alright.  Different anatomies might be different.  You should also have a suction effect as the penis leaves your mouth. 

Deepthroat.  Honestly, if you would have told me five years ago that I would do something like that I would have just laughed at you.  But I hacked it.  Yeah, I still have a gag reflex but it can be mitigated.  Some people recommend desentization with bananas or cucumbers but I've found something else that works.

I've been practicing yoga for about 10 years so I have pretty good control of muscles in my body that most other people don't simply because they don't practice.  The throat houses some of those muscles.  The specific breath I used is ujjayi.  If you're interested, here's a brief pranayama instruction (you might learn better from YouTube videos, so you can try those too).  You just can't see the neck muscles move so I think it's better to have a written description:

The Victorious Breath
Once you can practice samavrtti with ease for 10 to 15 minutes, you can move on to the practice of Ujjayi Pranayama (Victorious Breath). Ujjayi is simply doing samavrtti with the addition of a slight closure at the root of your throat. Narrowing the throat by half-closing the epiglottis (the piece of cartilage at the top of your voice box) gives your breath a voice. Let that voice become your teacher. Listen to the tone of that voice as you inhale and exhale, and make that tone as even and smooth as you can, without any catches or wavering and without any change in pitch. Listening to the voice of ujjayi pranayama will give you greater sensitivity and control over the nuances of your breath.
At first, you may wonder exactly how to manipulate this epiglottal valve at the root of your throat. Here are two methods which can help you learn this action. First, just sigh, and notice the slight constriction in your throat that occurs. That's the area you need to control when you're practicing ujjayi. A second way is to open your mouth and inhale softly, noticing where the breath touches your throat. For most people, that will be deep down at the base and back of the throat. Again, that's the spot you need to constrict slightly to practice ujjayi. After you've zeroed in on this area, close your mouth and inhale, letting the breath touch your throat there. Once you can inhale in this way, practice exhaling with the same constriction of the epiglottis.

Once you've mastered that constriction, you basically use those same muscles to open up and relax your throat.  If you have any other personal relaxation techniques you can use, you may want to try those out too.  I basically use deep breathing through my nose while manually expanding my throat muscles any time I choose to deep throat.  It takes a lot of concentration and effort, but this is one of the "techniques" that reaps the greatest rewards.  I'm not sure why because I can't feel it but I definitely know there's a different physical and audible response in my partner.  You can even just try slowly working your way down over time until you find something that works for you and your partner, again – communication, communication, communication.

But what about when he cums? Swallow or spit? What's it like? Does it happen everytime? Personally, I knew if I was in, I was all in. Taste isn't bad. Smell is disgusting. Sorry guys, but salty bleach smell stuck in the back of my throat and wafting through my nose is not my favorite! I don't think spitting at this point makes a difference – I never have so I don't know the proper disposal techniques for that. Perhaps someone else can chime in. 

I generally don't breathe in my nose until I swallow and drink a lot of water. A couple seconds of minor unpleasantness is worth it for me. Pineapples (I've heard strawberries recently, too) help to make the taste and smell more neutral. Plus I know when the tables are turned, it's not ALL roses and I'd like someone to stick around until I'm finished too. It also has a numbing effect (similar to Novocain) on anything it touches in the mouth or throat. This was surprising but it passes in just a few minutes.

You don't have to though. While women can have both oral sex and intercourse in the same session, it's much harder for men.  I would say a majority of the time, you won't have to worry about cum in your mouth – never if you're really opposed.

69s can be fun too, but in a different way.  There's not as much focus on one person's anatomy and preferences, but you can develop a certain level of non verbal communication and synergy that is pretty amazing. Takes time and practice but so, so, SO worth it.

I want women to feel empowered, confident, and to explore their own sexuality. It's fluid and as you learn more about what you are doing, things that seemed gross, scary, uncomfortable, or weird become some of the most powerful tools in your belt.

Saying I don't give blowjobs is like saying I don't do math. It's more a matter of being uncomfortable with the material because you don't know how to manipulate the variables than it is true unwillingness.

Knowledge is power, even (especially) in the bedroom. 


Just to clarify once more since I have the feeling this may be a very interesting answer for some folks – I don't care how you like it or want it or if you don't like how I do it. Don't comment with any of that nonsense. Seriously. Go write your own answer! However, if you have further questions, need clarification, or want to piggyback on a part of my answer, comment on!

19 Replies to “Fellatio: How do I give a good blowjob?”

  1. Giving oral pleasure to a man can be almost as much fun for you as it is for him. Take a deep breath, and remember to keep breathing the entire time. Most importantly, have fun with it! Begin to slide slowly your mouth slowly back and forth on his penis. taking as much of him as you can before pulling your mouth back to his head.

    Remember to keep your mouth rounded and tightened around him. When you have vaginal sex with your partner, the tightness of your body around his penis causes extraordinary pleasure. Recreating this tightness with your mouth is an easy way to take your blowjob to the next level instantly.

    If you're still confused about how to create it, put two of your fingers in your mouth (wash your hands first!). Notice the difference in feeling when your lips are slack compared to when you squeeze them slightly around your fingers. Now try sucking in slightly with your lips tight around your fingers. There you go! After teasing your partner with your slow movements for a little while, you can start to pick up the pace. Begin moving your head faster, keeping this idea of tightness in mind. As you grow more confident, you can use the sucking motion you tried on your fingers to help pull his cock deeper into your mouth as you move forward and make the sensation more intense for him at the same time.

    It's all about pace – start out slowly and build up your pace. Don't be shy about any slurping sounds that may sneak out as you start to move faster. He'll love them. Another great way to occupy your hands is to gently play with his "family jewels." That's right ladies, lots (and I mean lots) of guys love to have their balls stroked, squeezed, and massaged.

    The key here is the word "gentle." Testicles are very delicate things. In fact, some men don't like to have them touched at all. The easiest way to find out how your man feels about ball play is to ask him. Give him a smoldering glance while you're on your knees in front of him and murmur sexily, "Can I play with your balls?" Once you've gotten the go-ahead, here's how to handle his most delicate part:

    Cup his sack delicately in your hand and squeeze very lightly. Run your fingers delicately over the soft skin down there. Just be sure that, however you decide to handle them, you keep your ministrations very delicate. You've seen a guy get kicked down there, right? Not pretty, so take care. You can also use your mouth on to lick, tease, and suck his balls and make him weaker at the knees than that kick! Here's how.

    Remove your mouth from his penis, making sure he is stimulated with your hand.

    Stick out your tongue and gently lick his sack. Try different ways of moving your tongue; see what makes him moan! When he's thoroughly turned on, open your mouth and very gently suck one of his balls into your mouth, rolling it around slightly with your tongue. Repeat with the other.

    Make sure your guy is into ball-play before you make one of these bold moves, but if he is they'll pay off big-time!

    Don’t get me started, I can go on and on and on, for more details and other must have sex tricks under your sleeve check this book guide. You will have quite a lot of fun.

  2. Do It Somewhere Daring

    Getting oral sex while driving fast along a highway in a convertible (car: red, girl: blonde) is a typical teenage boy's fantasy. But when you're younger, you tend not to think things like "If he's having an orgasm, he's not exactly paying attention to driving" or "This could be fun but could also kill us." Therefore, a lesser '- but no less appealing '- version of this is to casually reach across the car, unzip and expose him, then dispense a leisurely hand job that keeps him standing at attention but doesn't bring him to climax. Shift to using your mouth when you arrive at your destination. Other places to give him a blow job that are daring but a little less so: in the bathroom at a party, on a balcony with his top half in view but you hidden, and up against the front door inside your apartment when he was previously on his way out the door to work.

    Lick It Like It's a Lollipop

    This one is often used in porn films, because it allows him to see exactly what's going on. It's best done on your knees, and depending on your heights he might need to stand on something (you need direct access to his testicles). Start by lifting his penis to expose his testicles, then find the line that runs up between them (it's a tiny ridge that's often a darker color). Find where this starts on the underside of his testicles, and that's where the long lick starts '- continuing, very slowly, right to the tip of his penis. Repeat the full-length licks until you've done at least 10, then move into one of the other techniques.

    Go All the Way

    Begin the oral sex by covering your teeth with your lips and then taking as much of him in your mouth as you can '- in one wonderful movement. I'm not saying you have to "deep throat." Just let him see his penis disappear rapidly. Most women start by licking the head, then take him little by little inside. He won't be expecting a full-length shaft swallow right away '- which is why it works so well to impress him!

    Fisting for Nice Girls

    Use one hand to hold the base of the penis, and let saliva pool in your mouth (your tongue needs to keep him nice and slippery). Make a loose fist with your other hand and slide it up and down his penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum (but don't suck), then slide up and down, your hand following your mouth. If you're not the most coordinated person, hold your hand still at the base of the penis and simply move your mouth up and down.

    Add Oomph

    Spice up any oral technique by adding the "twist and swirl." The combination of firm fingers and a soft tongue feels fantastic, and it's easy to master: As you're using your hand to masturbate him, twist it slightly once it reaches the head. At the same time, swirl the flat of your tongue around the rim of the head. It's a simple but oh-so-effective move! Also try frenulum flicks: Use a tensed tongue to flick it, or make like a butterfly and "flutter" your tongue on his frenulum.

    Star in His Favorite Porn

    Love it or hate it, one of the reasons why men are so fond of pornography is that it's so overexaggerated. Add erotic flair to your repertoire by kissing him while you're both standing up, then dropping to your knees rather dramatically. Use one hand to guide his penis into your mouth, then '- maintaining intense eye contact throughout '- reach up with both hands to tweak his nipples. The "Look, Mom, no hands!" pose looks far more accomplished than it is, but it will score you big oral sex brownie points. If you want to rate off the scale, follow it up with this next little number.

    Back Him Up

    As he's getting undressed, lie on the bed with your head where your feet usually go, rather than perched on the pillows. As he walks toward the bed, slide down so your head is hanging over the bed, grab his buttock cheeks and take his penis into your mouth. Your head should be off the bed as you give him oral sex upside down. He's ultimately in control of the thrusting, but you can use your hands as a guide to speed him up or slow him down. Not only does this look sexy, but it also opens your throat wide so you can take in more of him without gagging.

    Ball Games

    The greatest compliment you can give him is looking like you want to be down in that area. And one of the best ways to demonstrate this is to explore all of it. Take one or both testicles in your mouth, hum lightly, suck gently and swirl your tongue around them. (Note: If you don't want to swallow when he ejaculates, switching to testicle stimulation while continuing to stimulate him with your hand is a good alternative.) Also, lick his perineum (between his testicles and anus), and while you're down there…

    Give Him "Analingus"

    Oral anal stimulation that involves licking, flicking or inserting a stiff tongue into the anal passage and thrusting feels great (for both sexes, actually), because the area is highly sensitive and loaded with nerve endings. If you're worried about germs or STDs, or if you're generally squeamish, put a barrier between the area and you, such as a piece of plastic wrap or a cut-open condom. Lots of guys love this, but many are too shy to tell you. So pretending it's your favorite thing to do (even if it isn't) takes care of that without awkwardness: If you like doing it, well, he has to indulge you, doesn't he?

  3. A2A.

    When I am giving my guy a blowjob I like to start by kissing him and trailing my kisses to his ears. I nibble on his earlobe and breathe into his ear, causing him to shudder. I'll then move to kissing his neck, chest, abs, trailing down to his thighs. I avoid touching him directly at first, trailing kisses and licks close to his penis, but not touching it yet.

    I then start at the base of his balls and slowly run my tongue on the crease between them up to the base of his shaft. I then run my tongue, again slowly, up his penis. But, before I do anything with the head I breathe fairly heavily on the tip before sliding my lips around him for the first time. I start fairly slow, swirling my tongue around the tip in one direction then sliding my mouth all the way down and back up only to swirl my tongue around his tip in the other direction. I also like to use my hand to slide up and down along his shaft as I do.

    I know that people say to never use teeth but from my experience a little teeth can be good. So I will pull him all the way in my mouth and move his penis over to one side and, very carefully, slide my mouth over him grazing his penis with my back teeth (I tend to get a very good moan out of him doing that). I'll do that a couple times alternating the right and left side of my mouth. If my jaw starts to hurt I will stop for a few seconds, but keep stroking him with my hand, paying attention to the tip and using my tongue to tease him a bit more.

    Of course I also suction my mouth around him slide up and down pressing my tongue against his head as I reach his tip with each slide…at this time I might be gently fondling his balls (be careful, they are sensitive and you don't want to pull too hard). When I can tell he is getting closer to climax I fall into a steady rhythm of sliding up and down his shaft with my mouth, using my tongue for pressure, also using my hand, while my other hand holds his balls close to his body. When he cums I keep his penis in my mouth (when the head towards the back, easier to swallow) and then slowly run my lips over his head when I know he is done….at this point he's super sensitive so don't overdo the dismount. Lol.

  4. What's always worked for me was putting the part of his penis head that looks like a scoop up into the roof of my mouth and create a vacumm effect. It drove most of my guys wild.

    Sucking dick actually hurts when you're new at it. It made my lips hurt in much the same way playing a musical instrument does. And it's very fatigueing on the jaw to remain so wide open during a sucking motion. You will be exercising all new muscles.

    If he wants to skull-fuck you, be prepared to hold your mouth wide open, while sucking, and having his dick jackhammering in and out, ramming and bruising the back of your throat, while spit and drool and maybe even some vomit gets all over the nice hotel bedsheets.

    Good luck, and be careful not to scrape with your teeth. 😉

  5. Giving head is far more than just taking a penis into your mouth and bobbing up and down. Yes, that'll work for most guys, but it's far from the best.

    Take a little time to read up on male anatomy. Learn with the different parts of the male parts are. Read up on List of homologues of the human reproductive system, both internal and external. You can forget about minor glands and tubing, but the major parts are important. Which of those parts on you feel good when they're excited are probably going to feel good on him, too.

    Your mouth is not just a surrogate vagina. You have lips and a tongue. They can be put to good use on all parts of the penis, scrotum, and (indirectly) the testicles. Even a little bit of tooth action can come in useful.

    Learn about the prostate gland and how you can put pressure on it. Since it's an internal gland, you cannot get to it directly, but you can apply pressure on the peritoneum, upward inside the scrotum, or through the anus. Prostate stimulation during a blow job can turn the mundane into the spectacular.

    Ask around your friends or read around the Internet to see what others (both male and female) have to suggest. What you learn may not be entirely applicable to your boyfriend because guys are different, but you're going to be in the right neighborhood.

    Lastly, don't expect your first blowjob to be your best blowjob. It takes both practice and learning what your specific boyfriend enjoys or doesn't enjoy.

  6. That's tough. It's very dependant on personal taste. If it's your first time giving or even his first time receiving I guess make sure you're in a private place. You don't want parents or friends or.. strangers walking in on you, not only can it ruin the moment and completely kill the mood but if it's your first time it can completely ruin your feelings towards fellatio, and this should not be a reason that should make you dislike it.

    Secondly, make sure it's an enjoyable experience for you, too. I've found that both parties get SO much more out of the experience if you're excited, comfortable and feel sexy and good about yourself while doing it. Giving someone else pleasure with your mouth (for me) is one of the most rewarding things you can do — if you do it right. One of the best tips I've ever had is don't go down on him with the intention of making him cum. Explore, allow yourself to be adventurous, he'll let you know if he's not into it and you can try something else, but take your time and don't rush it.

    Depending on the guy, sometimes it's pretty easy to see what they like from their responses, clenching their thighs together. I've met guys who really enjoy stimulation of their bell end with my lips and tongue (and sometimes teeth – although be wary with that one) and others who it doesn't do much for. If you're capable of it (or he's not particularly large in length) sometimes it's really fun just experimenting with how far down you can get, how much you can get in your mouth.

    Personally, I adore giving head, and I've practised a lot so it comes more naturally to me. It's fun and makes me feel powerful and sexy and having the power and ability to make someone feel one of (if not THE) most exquisite feelings they possibly can is just wonderful.

    So basically: Explore. Take your time. Make sure YOU feel comfortable and sexy (because it makes a HUGE difference to his experience, too) and don't focus on him cumming. If you're enjoying it he's more likely to cum quicker anyway but that shouldn't necessarily be your focus… (if it's his first time getting a blowjob he's gonna get there preeeettty soon anyway ;))

    Have fun!!

  7. NB/ This was written originally from a male perspective to a female because I assumed a male would know most of this information however parts are unisexual whereas other sentences obviously relate to females.

    Talk to him and ask him what he likes or doesn't like. Believe it or not we are all different. But a few universal points I'm sure most guys will back me up on.
      DON'T suck him off like you are trying to start a fire in bush with two pieces of wood (I don't know why pornos show girls doing this it doesn't feel good). Treat his penis like you want him to first touch your clit (soft and sensitive at the start). The tip is the most sensitive, the shaft hasn't got nerve endings like the head so don't think that stroking it will feel any different than stroking his elbow HOWEVER the base of the shaft respond really well to pressure when it's hard.. So give it a firm squeeze every now and then. (Hint: if your vagina muscles contract strongly when you come use this as a bonus… Sit that baby on the base of his shaft so your vagina does the squeezing OMG!!)
    DON'T neglect the balls! Touch them lightly and DON'T squeeze them like a lemon to see if they squeak; he'll need to lie on his back for 5 mins just to recover them form his guts and will be in agony.
    Lick his nipples and ear lobes.
    When you blow him softly lick under the head it feels incredible and lick and suck softly ever contour of his weapon… Like a amazing ice cream and you are savoring every flavour.
    When you eventually put it inside you, don't hump too vigorously it's too sensitive and he won't be able to stop himself from coming… Let him get used to the feeling then once he is in the zone then let loose. Remember we are very different to you in that once we cum that stupid refractory period hits us and we can't see what the big deal is with sex it seems boring (only for a min or two). Also we are built to come anywhere anytime, so if you want him to last more than 5 mins be very aware of his orgasm threshold… You need to help him last. Yes it can be amusing to have the power of performing a few short actions and watch your man turn into a hypnotised puppet that ejaculates on command…but we also love being horny so don't let the party be finished before you've even finished pre dinner drinks!
    Apart from this remember most of us LOVE giving oral sex to you so don't think we are performing a duty, and we are extremely visual so don't get offended if when we get turned on we crave to look at your breasts and pussy…we can't help it. They seem like the most beautiful creations ever…
    I hope this helps!!

  8. By communicating with your partner. Trying to sort out specific techniques won’t work, as what works for some men won’t always work for others.

    One thing I can recommend that works for pretty much 100% of men: enthusiasm. Men absolutely love having a partner give a blowjob enthusiastically. If a woman is sucking my dick like it’s going to start spraying out ambrosia rather than semen, that’s a massive turn-on, and instantly makes the entire experience more enjoyable.

  9. From a guys point of view …. ( What we want to receive )

    1. Enjoy yourself and want to be sucking his dick.
    2. Mix it up , don't just keep repeating the same action over and over.
    3. Include the balls, A Bit of sucking and massaging goes a long way.
    4. Position yourself so that he can finger you or even better be licking your pussy.
    5. Look Him in the eye
    6. If he is in to it …. play with his anus.

    For more technical and in depth info checkout – Blowjob 101 – The Art Of Giving Good Head

  10. So I skimmed through some of the answers and they are all awesome and most of the various techniques and biological fundamentals have been mentioned and delved into quite awesomely so I'm not going to repeat what's been said, what I am going to mention that I may have missed being mentioned (it was a fast skim) that I feel is crucial.

    Enjoy giving head. Plain and simple.

    You can have all the information in the world but if you can't stand the idea of having a dick in your mouth, or the thought of tasting semen makes your stomach turn then none of it matters.

    On top of all those wonderful suggestions giving good head also requires lust, passion and most of all a genuine desire to have dick in your mouth.

    If you are just doing it to do it out of obligation or to “keep your man” you will mostly likely get the job done but getting the job done is exactly what will be projected, and from what's been conveyed to me that's a huge turn off despite ejaculation occurring.

    You can't fake your way through head, you like it or you don't and they do know the difference.

  11. Feedback, feedback, feedback.  It's all in the feedback.

    Different men enjoy different things, get tired of the same stimulation at different rates, and enjoy a variety of pressures and speeds at different times.

    If he's writhing and moaning or looking pleasurably incapacitated, you're doing something right.  When he stops, it's time to change it up.  If you stop and he says, "don't stop," keep going.

    Learn to read his signals and encourage him to give feedback.  Ask him to direct you.  Or play a game of "which feels better, this or that?"

    One thing that all men seem to enjoy is you looking into their eyes as you blow them.  And letting them see your naked body.

  12. I think everybody here forgot one of the most important things and that  is eye contact…. I have never met a man yet who has not groaned in  agonising pleasure when he looks down and all he can see is his cock  sliding in and out of your mouth and your eyes staring at him. There is  something very powerful about that eye contact that men find electric  and the moment I hear that glorious groan of lust that turns me on in  ways I can not describe.

  13. Don't limit yourself to the mouth. Accompany the act with your hand as well. Where your mouth does not reach, add some manual stimulation gently pressing, caressing, pinching the exposed parts of the penis, but not only (sack, nipples, belly, face cheeks). A good fellatio should not be a repetitive, mechanical act: use your tongue to caress the whole length and circumference of the penis, alternate slow motions to fast ones and, last but not least, never go more down than you feel comfortable with and never use your teeth. The primary way to give pleasure is to get pleasure in doing it. Consider it like enjoying a beautiful, tasty, juicy ice cream on the hottest day which has ever hit earth and your partner will love your technique.

  14. I'm going to answer this generally as specific techniques will vary greatly from one person to the next.

    It helps to have open communication between both partners. Have your partner explain what they enjoy both beforehand and provide feedback during the act. Listen carefully and don't judge their preferences. Keep an open mind but also don't feel forced into doing something you aren't comfortable with. Let your partner know where your boundaries are. Make sure your partner respects you and your feelings.

    Try to make it fun and enjoyable for yourself. If you aren't having fun, that will come through in your actions and can ruin the experience for both of you.

    Communication, trust, and respect are the most important part of any intimate act between consenting partners.

  15. I was told that I was terrible at this so I read a lot from men on this topic. And I asked a gay guy. I’ve received rave reviews ever since.

    1. Always make sure it’s wet. Spit on it if you have to.
    2. Always keep your tongue moving. Whether you are sucking just the tip or have the whole shaft in your mouth, keep flicking the with your tongue.
    3. Take your time. It’s not a race.
    4. Enjoy it. Make sounds and say how much you are enjoying it.
    5. Keep your teeth covered by your lips. If he wants you to use teeth, he will ask.
    6. If you have concerns about not being able to breathe or that you will gag, you go on top of him or have him stand while you are on your knees. This allows you more control. He can always grab your head but these positions give you leverage to release from his hand.
    7. Take as much in your mouth as possible. If you angle your head a bit, the penis can be more in your mouth by letting it hit the inside of your cheek.
    8. If you are going to deep throat, then relax.
    9. Use your hand to massage the base of his penis so it feels like his entire penis is being taken care of.
    10. Enjoy the smell of a penis and balls.
    11. Ask what he likes. Then do what he likes.
    12. Don’t forget his balls. You can lick, suck, tease, rub, hold them. This is where you must ask for his preference as some men are highly sensitive and can only have light flicks whereas other men want a firm grabbing.
    13. And lots of men like to have their nipples rubbed or squeezed while you go down on them.
    14. If a guy likes to have you gagging then go for it. Let your gag reflex run wild.

    I was terrified of giving blowjobs because I was terrible at it. I made the man shower immediately before and wouldn’t go down there for very long. I was uptight. Once I learned to enjoy giving oral with the smells and sounds and taste, it became pleasurable for me as well. I let him know I’m enjoying this and it’s not a mandatory task. That turns guys on right there. Just enjoy it and ask him what he likes then do what he likes.

  16. 1. Keep your mouth wet at ALL times. Nothing is worse than having a dry mouth when giving oral.
    2. Never let your teeth hit his shaft
    3. Elongate your sucking motion, glide your tongue from the top of his shaft to the bottom repeatedly being careful to pay special attention to the tip–its very sensitive.
    4. Make sure to work your hand and mouth simultaneously, using your hand for squeezing, pumping and giving enough pressure so he'll feel the sensations of the heat and wetness of your mouth along with your hand.
    5. Give short, sucking motions at times to create a balance. This will cause the blood flow to continue to flow.
    6. If he seems dazed or zoned out and can't control his legs or feet? You're doing an excellent job!
    7. When he comes, continue sucking but swallow nothing. Spit (yes, I'm a spitter) and quickly return to sucking until his orgasm is finished. If you're a swallower, then do what you do!
    (I've never had a complaint! Hope this helps!) *peace sign*

  17. Pleasing your man with a great blow job is of prime importance if you want to fully satisfy your man and make him like putty in your hands, so pay close attention. When giving a great BJ you have to consider your blow job's speed, rhythm, and pressure levels. These are the most critical elements.

    If you go too slowly you're not going to stimulate the penis enough, if you get into an erratic rhythm it's just not as pleasurable for your man, and if you pressure levels are either too high or too low then you're not giving a great BJ. Experiment. That's the key. And practice, if you don't have access to a man then practice on a banana or a carrot, perhaps even a cucumber – but don't get one that's too large!

    When you're sucking your partner's penis it's all about simulating vaginal sex. You're basically trying to make your mouth mimic your vagina. So think about the speed, rhythm and pressures that your vagina exerts and how those make your man orgasm. Use these same rhythms and speeds and you'll be a huge success. A faster speed and perfect suction pressure will do the trick every single time, you've just got to find that perfect combination. It's a little different from guy to guy but it's doesn't vary all the much.

    Once you've got it down, it's a skill that you can use for a life time, you can bring your "A+" blow job skills to any sexual relationship that you encounter. It's going to make you feel sexier and more confident for sure.

    Giving sexy eye contact and making a little noise while your "down there" doing the business is incredibly pleasing to any guy. Let him know that you're turned on and he'll love you for it. Make his penis really wet with your saliva and make some loud sucking noises, also throw in the occasional "mmmm" sound… works every time. Just don't be surprised if your man blows his load quick.

    Your man wants a porn like experience, even if he doesn't talk about it. Give it to him and you'll both be very happy campers.

    I was lucky enough to understand this in a moment when my relationship started to break into little pieces. Everything begins and ends in bedroom, think about it. If you're willing to go down this road of great blow jobs I'm recommending you to search for a book called Jack's Blowjob Lessons. There is nothing more that you'll need if you want to learn how to give incredible head.

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  18. Start slow, use your tongue more lick his tip as it is very sensitive while giving a head use your hands to hold the balls,suck the balls, use as much spit as possible,make sure you look in his eyes while giving a head as it satisfies him,try deep throat if possible. use your hand to wank the dick when you suck it!

  19. as Quora User said, everyone is different so ask your man. if he is too shy to tell you or "don't know". Try different techniques.

    Give him an blowjob and handjob at the same time (creates an illusion of taking it all oral)

    The most sensitive part is the head, so try licking that and only sucking on that.

    try going between really slow and as far down as you can
    OR
    faster and as far down without choking.

    but ask him, if he know what he wants he should be able to tell you.

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